This is why I don’t hang around with other women

I read a lot of blogs. I never comment on the blogs, but I read a lot of them. Some of these blogs have message boards and other social networking type applications attached to them. I occasionally post on a few of them, but I’m not a regular, per se, on any of them. There’s a reason for that. I don’t care to subject myself to reading the mean and, more often than not, uncalled for things that a lot of women say when they’re in a group of people who they think are their friends. I’m the kind of person who will read some threads and messages if I have a free minute in my day, but I certainly don’t spend all my time replying and starting new threads like a lot of the people on the message boards do. I don’t see the point in engaging in a conversation with people who will turn on you if they decide they don’t like you anymore. I have more important things to take care of in daily life. Their names are Reed, Brookes, Madeline, Beau, Reagan, and Maddox.
But truthfully, with Alexander home on leave right now, I’m finding slightly more time in my day to read the blogs I normally read and look at the message boards attached to them. As I said, I don’t reply to threads often, and I don’t read the ones that don’t interest me. Why waste the time? However, in the last few days of reading one particular message board (I won’t give the name of it, because I think the woman in charge of it is a perfectly nice woman and I really do enjoy her blog) I’ve come to realize that there’s a very good reason why I don’t normally hang out with other women. Women are the meanest creatures that God ever put on earth. They will take any flaw in a person and drag it out until they feel it’s been exploited enough, and then sit back and laugh with their other “friends”. That doesn’t appeal to me in any way, shape, or form. Maybe it’s because I don’t have time for that kind of thing. Maybe it’s because my parents taught me that people who do those kind of things are probably just unhappy with their own life and need to make someone else feel like nothing as well. Whatever the reason, I don’t bother myself with reading garbage from people like that.
There is a particular instance that has made me realize that I’ll probably never again go back to one particular message board/community. It’s made up of around 95% (or more) women, which should have been one indication that it wasn’t my kind of place. The way a certain group of women behaved toward another member of the community was shocking to me. They took this person and practically eviscerated them. Instead of just quietly letting the person know that they weren’t believable, these women very publicly brought out everything bad and then took pleasure in the resulting chaos. That’s sickening.  As a woman, I hate seeing things like this because it only serves to stereotype women even more as being heartless, mean and catty on the inside, but all pretty and polite on the outside. Whether or not this person was telling the truth is no ones concern. There was nothing that would indicate that it was all a lie, and nothing to indicate that it was the truth. It was all circumstantial. But that didn’t stop a group of women from “protecting”  their “friends”, which is really just a nice way of saying getting a kick out of humiliating a person. It’s absolutely sickening.

There’s a very good chance that some of the women who frequent that community will read this, and they’re going to know exactly what I’m referring to. I hope they do. I hope they know that behavior like that isn’t welcomed by everyone. I’m one of the people who doesn’t welcome it.
As I said before, I’ll still read the blog that’s written by the woman who owns the community, because she’s a lovely woman who is willing to share her story. She also makes a little bit of money from the ads on her blog, and I’m happy to support her in that. But I will not return to the community attached to the blog because I don’t agree with the way that some of the members are acting. I think it’s repulsive.

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